My Observation..
about Observation..
things appear to different people in different ways, but another view is that, same thing appears to different people in different ways and continues… This context is very well explained by Betrand Russell in the book the PROBLEMS OF PHILOSOPHY
Example 1:
I am going to introduce you to one of my friends called ‘A’: who is slightly mad?
Before I take you to him, I tell you as a prior word of caution that he is slightly mad,
so that you may take precaution either in speech or in action, as long as you are with him.
In this situation, How you would behave with him?
Certainly
not as freely as you behave with a normal person!
What if Mr.A
looks not really mad, but a good and wise gentleman, wise in appearance and behaviour:
You will constantly surprise yourself asking
“Can mad people behave so well and stay dignified..?”.
Example 2:
If I tell Mr.A that you are slightly mad, the same would be
his behaviour towards you. In this situation, How would he behave with you respond to his behaviour?
Example 3:
What if I tell Mr.A that, you are slightly mad, and with you, that, Mr. A is slightly mad,
(i.e.., If I tell both of you that the other is slightly mad) you can
imagine mutual behavioural exchange and exchange of words and expressions,
towards each other guided with utmost care and caution. Why ?
Example 4:
say: you are a psychiatrist (a doctor who constantly deals with mental disorders),
and is well-versed with behavioural traits at different stages of madness – an expert in behavioural traits.
In the very first instance or after exchange of few words, you can figure out that he/she (Mr. A/Mrs. A) is not mad.
This is nothing but, knowing the other person before you meet him,
because the expert is well educated in that area of concern.
Finally:
without any Pre-View, You mutually exchange your interests, and interact
as normal, and try to weight your likes and dislikes,
to check if he meets your personal standards. and tend to build relationship.
relating the same to:
Arranged Marriages Vs. Love Marriages,
Mostly in arranged marriage, there should not be any prompting need to mask themselves
but in a love marriage, they often behave and tend to potray an ideal character, to exhibit that, he/she is the most ideal person in the world,
and the other may not find any other suitable person.
They mutually proceed till marriage with the same mask and later when situations lead them to
un-cover their original identity, will tear away mutual assumptions.
After they discover themselves without masks, statements like, I thought you were that,
but you are not so, if I might have guessed that you are this, I may not have come to this extent,
I hate to see you this way, and many other similar statements.
In fact, they might have had many situations, where their consciences might have told them,
“what one sees in the other is not original character”, still they proceed with assumptions
and imaginations and give all sorts of funny explanations to sustain their former view.
Shortest path may not always be the best path,
as it will by-pass some of the most beautiful and precious lessons of life."
We don't like to live without mask, just because, we have all ailments like false-confidence,
greed, false-prestige etc… which will not let us have UN-MASKED VISION.